26 February, 2010

Choosing name and hospital

Hi there...

Today I have done weekly check up...same like the last week ~ baby ok, me ok, and of course the gynea said hopefully by next week I can deliver..[baby, pls dun say mummy womb is the best until you dun want to come out...gulp..Baby, mum already prepare to be in the battle...even manage to eat masak lemak belimbing buluh, and there is no more craving that I have]


Since there is some time today I will write about name and hospital

Choosing name is really tough....Haha...encik suami name is 3 words while mine simple....so what we should put for our baby?


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Even though we have so many months to think...it always like not fixed..sbb bila tgk tv, read other baby name from mag...like 'eh sedap la nama'...[habis sume flip thru mag, books, buku memasak[hoho nama chef pun ada yg canggih gak =p,]...and so on...

When I am still not married [not sure actually what my status that time...with skandal2 xjadi or exactly single time], I love this name " Haziq Imran" and for girl no feveret name...but when I'm pregnant I have no more preference to any specific name...[gosh...xtau nape]..

Maybe because I think the simple name will do...Muhammad, Aliff, Firdaus, Sarah, Izzah, Aisyah...but of course have to consider encik suami [lagi plak nama dia ada Sheikh...haha dl ada housemate kata nk book anak lelaki kami tuk jd menantu, anak perempuan xmo...sbbnya nnt dia ada cucu cop Sheikh]

Encik suami already selected 4 names and finally I agree with one name.....[but again still not sure to put 3 words or just 2 words]. And for next pregnancy will be my turn to find the suitable name.....

Here I paste the guideline in Islam for giving baby name and click here for list of name

Di dalam Islam, kita dianjurkan supaya memilih nama-nama yang baik untuk dinamakan kepada anak-anak kita. Ini kerana nama itu akanmenjadi pengenalan dan panggilan kepada anak kita seterusnya melambangkan dan membezakan antara kita dengan orang lain lebih-lebih lagi antara Muslim dengan bukan Muslim. Rasulullah s.a.w. bersabda bermaksud:

"Sesungguhnya kamu akan diseru pada hari qiamat dengan nama-nama kamu, dan
nama-nama bapa kamu, maka perindahkanlah nama-nama kamu itu."

(Riwayat Abu Daud)

Dalam menamakan anak ini syarak telah menetapkan beberapa panduan untuk memilih nama anak sebagai berikut:
a. Hendaklah nama yang dipilih itu memberi pengertian dan maksud yang baik. Sehubungan dengan itu kita dilarang untuk menamakan anak-anak kita dengan nama yang buruk yang boleh menjejaskan kehormatan dan mungkin menjadi sendaan dan memalukan anak tersebut.
b. Jangan namakan anak dengan nama-nama yang khusus kepada nama Allah seperti Ahad, Ar-Rahman, AL-Khalid dan sebagainya. Sekiranya nama ini hendak diberikan kepada anak kita maka hendaklah disertai dengan nama lain di hadapannya seperti Abdul Rahman, Abdul Khalid dan sebagainya.
c. Jangan menggunakan nama yang dikaitkan dengan Abdul (hamba kepada lain dari Allah seperti Abdul Uzza (hamba berhala Uzza), Abdul Nabi (hamba kepada nabi) dan sebagainya.Ulama bersepakat mengatakan bahawa menamakan sedemikian adalah haram.
d. Elakkan dari menamakan anak dengan nama-nama orang kafir atau nama-nama yang menyerupai nama bukan Islam seperti Jon, Sally, sebagainya.



And next topic choosing hospital for delivery...Both our co do not sponsor any hospital cost...so have to choose within our financial status...

But before that sometimes there is like confuse 'nak g monthly check up mana vs hospital nk bersalin'

After considering and read other experience I would suggest to mum to be to have govt check up...aka have a 'buku merah' [even tho u have to be super patient there since sooo many people there]. The reason if you have complication in private hospital [we will never know, but of course pray for smooth pregnancy and delivery], you will be refer to govt hospital ; whereby govt hospital surely asked buku merah...Besides you will keep this book urself [which is good, leh belek2 tgk berat naik turun..and so on.]

I have govt check up for 3 times [4-6mths plus scan in clinic as there is no chance to get scan in govt at early stage pregnant], clinic [7-8mths since clash with tonnes of work vs time consuming] and recently with the hospital that we have choose

When it comes to hospital for delivery of course there is a lot of story mory like govt not giving good service, while private like giving special treatment but of course the doc is like to have c-zer instead of normal.....and so on. Pendek kata both have pros and cons

By looking from our house location there are 4 hospital to choose Putrajaya, Serdang, KPMC, Columbia Asia....considering $$$, traffic jam, services and so on...at first we agree either Putrajaya or Serdang.

Then we try to narrow down the criteria [wah2 mcm expert...]. Encik suami prefer if we can have like private service eg female gynea, room and so on [but of course want to have reasonable charge]. While I prefer to have baby friendly hospital for the purpose of breastfeeding [cek xpandai no...harus kena dapat correct support from the very first day]. Clickhere for the list of hospital rakan bayi which not really up to date, but at least some idea.

So try to google here and there and after reading here I just know that Putrajaya will be the one. The search narrowed down again since to confirm the charge and whether the hospital accept or not alamat rumah kami kawasan-jajahan-takluk-hospital...The sad thing nowadays the hospital do not accept patient from our area; last few years they still accept it [benci btl pdhal kami ni dok dh dekat sgt, cuma diorg just kata sila p serdang]

But knowing that there is one alternative...FPP Full paying patient concept which has been introduced to Putrajaya and Selayang [again power of google]. From reading we understand its like private wing concept at HUKM and UM.

We visited the hospital and get some general idea esp on $$$. Understand that for normal birth the max will be RM2k, while operation range from RM3-5k [all depends on baby and mother situation..]..The only thing that might be burden is the deposit is RM3k [ni bayar masa nk bersalin la], but of course they will refund if the actual cost is much more lower. For FPP details click here or you can contact 03-8312 4315/6

Considering all the things, we finally agreed to choose Putrajaya and just wait patiently till the day to come

For readers [ececeh perasan mcm bnyk je], maaf zahir batin terkasar bahasa, terkurang komen kat blog korg2 [bnyk sgt nk baca, kdg time nk komen time tuh la broadband mengong...ni pun mengong sbb lama sgt nk upload gambaq..], tertulis xelok ka, terterjah hape2 ka, and so on....

The rest of the post after this will be auto post [until notified].


encik suami sila jgn lupa...

23 February, 2010

Baby, mum and dad cannot wait....

...to c u

I'm still here waiting patiently..Today I just started my maternity leave...Considering all the factors its better to stay at home [even tho I'm alone...at least ada internet jdla..and jiran kanan kiri mmg sah2 ada di rumah...]

We have done some testing Bangsar-Putrajaya...and it was terrible traffic jam before MEX..Some of officemate also scared seeing my big bump and since most of accounts dept is single ladies, they just scared if anything happen to me during office hour [even tho there is Pantai Hosp. nearby]

I thought of working until end of this week, however I dun want to make all people scared so staying at home might be the best option. If anything encik suami can rush to come back since for sure his office-our home no traffic jam

I have some of the signals...kaki bengkak, doc confirmed baby already engaged, braxton hicks maybe....but not yet for the other signals

Some of angkatan-baby [few encik suami frens also have due date that almost similar...so we called rakan seangkatan] already say hi to world..some not yet...

So today can lazily berehat...While bringing handphone everywhere..Read other blogs, read forums...[sesi penuhkan ilmu menjadi ibu..], kemas rumah tongkang pecah...and so on

Yesterday encik suami said he cannot wait our baby...."macam tggu iphone" [haha..nasib la baby..ur dad is IT-gadget so ur mum should said "tak sabar nk tggu closing habis" accounting version...ape kes????]

Oh ya time to pen off....terhegeh2 nk g mandi and so on....[broadband kdg mcm hampeh....]

[memandangkan ramai sgt kata pantang adalah bosan, marilah add sy di facebook/ YM....tawaran sementara masih ada =p ~ sblm mood berubah]

17 February, 2010

Pantang oh pantang

How do u spend long CNY holiday? Hmm..for me not so much as dlm-sesi-berjaga2....spend time lazily, maraton tidur, tv and so on

However, at least manage to settle something....buying confinement set and also 2 books related to Malay confinement

I know certain terms but I would consider myself tidak-cukup-ilmu-di-dada..and also always heard that if we do not really take care ourself during confinement, later will suffer at later age..sakit itulah inilah...[and men always have a reason bila wife tidak secun melecun spt dl....aih mintak jauh sume tu]

I am a kind of a person not so modern [aha..kolot kah?]...sometimes heard that after 2 weeks delivery can go to shopping mall [erk...], but of course people will write how boring it will be spending at home for 44 days confinement...[hehe even someone write items must have during confinement here]

Encik suami always 50-50 to send me back to his kampung for confinement...reason he is scared to drive our baby too far...plus MIL is still working. and even my kampung is just 2-3 hours travelling he is scared with the jalan-kampung-bengkang-bengkok nanti baby pening...

So after considering all the factors, I will spend confinement period at our house. MIL will come for a week and the rest encik suami haruslah tolong wife anda ini...and also my father will be staying with us [huhu sedih tau xde mak sdiri...baca blog org yg pantang ngan MIL pun rasa segan je macam2...yelah ngada2 ngan mak sdiri lain, nk ngada2 MIL harus la ada tahap2 jugalah...]
This book is great except the missing part is confinement....


To be frank, I am not sure how to choose confinement set...until I read this. Of course if buying too expensive set but not using it with-all-heart also might not have any +ve impact [slim melim mcm pengasas segala jamu2 cth mcm jamu mak dara, NR, mustika ratu..and so on]..pendek kata harusla-cuba-try-test dulu and try very best to follow all the pantang larang esp bab jaga makan dan berbengkung

But still I am tired not satisfied with internet reading, plus it is tiring to get all the exact wording...So yesterday I decided to bought 2 books about confinement [hehe since reading from few blogs that its worth buying]

We went to MPH, Alamanda....and get this [its pricey, but I will consider as good investment...nanti leh turunkan ke anak cucu....]
Encik suami : btl ke nk beli? mahal tu..
Me : leh claim tax ape? [agak encik suami lupa wife ada susur galur tax]
Encik suami : lps ni blh la awak jadik bidan..
Me: haha..blm lagikla...sdiri blm merasa sesi2 push2.....

To my disappoinment, another book is not in stock [have to wait for 2 weeks...], so I asked the SA to locate which MPH have this book [at this moment xboleh nk beli online sbb takut lambat sgt smpi], The SA said Summit and 1U..


So I requested encik suami to go Summit, since dalam kawasan jajahan xjauh dari rumah...but the SA over there have to take about 20 minutes to locate the book [itu pun bukan sorg carik....haih]


So since yesterday, I have read both..still not finish...but at least have a better understanding and confident to have confinement at our home [but of course encik suami sila support wife anda ini]

But I still have outstanding things to do..still not find the confinement lady tuk urut2 and so...plus maybe buy few add on items for the confinement [malam ini harus call sgala no yg dh dapat pg ni...mintak2 la dapat book 1 of them..Amin]

15 February, 2010

Keluh kesah...

...bila tarikh semakin hampir

Oh I dun really care about less than a month will be a year of wedding anniversary [pdhal br je td suami kata eh dh dekat setaun kawen ek..yes smlm exactly 11months]

Very lately have all the discomfort of being mum to be [br lebih faham mengapa syurga di telapak kaki ibu]

Braxton Hicks, discomfort esp sleeping and so on....dan rasa nk je makan sedap2 [sorg sepupu bakal jamu nasi minyak hujung bulan ni..x dapekla den nk makan...sbb tggu hari adalah lebih baik berada di rumah sdiri]

Oh lala....and nowadays I really like all the iced water [suami xleh komplen ape2...sbb sy kata 44 hari pantang sy xsentuh ayaq sejuk ni]....sirap bandung, teh o ais, tembikai, fresh oren, abc...huh semua itu sedap....

Memang sedap....

tapi bila malam menjelang terasa bahang...kipas berada di sebelah tapi peluh memercik, perut sesekali terasa tegang...sesekali bertnya pada baby bila nk keluar? [haruslah tiada jawapan...only kickin'] and past few days like having cirit birit [salah makan-kah? ke salah sbb minum ais?]

And with all the discomfort, there any so many things to concern....esp confinement, did I bought the suitable set lepas bersalin? what is the best step while in confinement and so on...

Its like I still dun have enough knowledge...[nga....baca buku, baca forum, sume xsama punya sbb diff people have diff style and understanding....haih tiba2 terasa ptt masuk dalam silibus belajar penjagaan wanita semasa dan selepas bersalin...bolehkah gitu?]

This Thursday have a check up with Dr H. Hope everything fine...[last week check up we asked about kesan accident kpd ibu..encik suami said she answered for all the worst cases...nge as far as I understand that if the is no sesi terhentak should be ok..nothing to worry...unless ur baby do not move after 24 hours...but if u faced with accident ada terhantuk, and so on...the doc will monitor closely]

Till then....[very sure our baby is tiger baby....sbb dh lps cny...hihi gender? wait till the day come..]

12 February, 2010

I love festive seasons




I love festive seasons because….

I will get festive gift from office..plus early release (eg christmast, new year eve)...

But, for this CNY no such gift..[heard that no such budget..uwa....mengidam nih]

However still today early release [unexpected..since most of Chinese dh pun masing2 amik cuti]...yeay..since I still can tawaf2 JJ..[walaupun letih....]

Some even said that I will not around in office after CNY...I do not have any idea yet....[bersalin awal pun bkn leh tau kan???]

Opss..before I forgot, untuk sesi2 basuh2 brg2 baby.... baju bajan, blanket and so on [previous entry], I do not use any detergent....just rendam sekejap dalam air, pastu bilas dan spin dlm washine machine, jemur, dan lipat...no nappikleen use..if u asked me my personal opinion...baju bajan tu xdelah kotor pun sbb xde pun baby2 yg test2 baju tu pun, but of course banyak tangan dh pegang2....so just basuh...remove all kuman2 ke hape2 ke...[cahaya matahari terik dh cukup la...so make sure timing basuh tu time panas terik]...

But for the next2 time [after our baby dh pun lahir] of course will use nappikleen since the clothes might be ada terkena bahan2 kumuhan semulajadi

11 February, 2010

Shopping for our baby


Buying baby essentials nowadays can cost $$$ a lot...because there are too many choices...and furthermore comparing nowadays lifestyle where most of mum is working mum [so we need extra things like breastpump, stroller, baby sitter..and so on]

I have tried to get as many advice as I can through some of 1st timer mum to be...and so on...and some of it which I can remember are:-
- baby clothing; no need to buy super expensive and too many newborn size. since they will grow very fast. one of my colleague said she bought some clothes and his son can only wear it only for a week...and need, to shop again
- toiletories for baby; pls do not buy in large size. reason since some of ur friends might give it as present (ada kata hadiah2 tu akan x abes guna even smpi anak dh 2 taun), besides u will never know ur baby skin is allergic or not
- coat, stroller, car seat, bouncer, and so on is not a must things to buy at very early stage [ but it depends on ur lifestyle]. u can choose to buy it as and when u think it suits ur baby
- besides buying for the baby, do not forget things for urself....like breastpump, pad, breast pad, confinement set and so on
- different people have different reaction to all type of confinement set. I think the 1st time will be try and error [eg ada kata xsesuai nona roguy sbb badan jd lag panas, ada yg sesuai...and so on]
- brand vs no brand..again it depends on ur financial status...u might want to buy certain things with good brand for long term investment
- dun forget to have thermometer; reason its not accurate bubuh tangan pd dahi...so thermometer is the best and accurate

....the rest maybe later I will write it, as dh ada experience

I listed here some of the shops which some of it I have visited either online, walk in or both.
Littlewhiz (click at left side-under affiliate for website link), babyjaya, mydear, twinsbaby, bbstore, firstfewyears (no m'sia website..i couldn't find), fabulousmum, mlo, mumdreams.....the rest silala google2 lagik ye...since I cannot remember all [but I believe at least u can compare some items there]. Even ikea also have baby cot okeh....

My advice sometimes it will good if you can walk in, since they might have special package or deal at the shop which they do not update it at their website..and also sila la kejar warehouse sale and so on for great bargain

You also can checked here for some advice for the baby buying [cot, mattress, playpen...and so on ~ even teething rail also mentioned in here...what I notice Ikea cot do not have teething rail, as it is sell separately]

Some of our buying during YES sale...[ehem2 sebulan shopping but I think we do not buy every single things..reason biaq baby keluar dulu and then shopping lagi for additional things. some not in the pics like mosquito stand and so on...yelah beli sume sikit2...kdg terjumpa, teringat brla beli]

besen mandi, carrier cum car seat

towel, blanker, mitten, booties...etc


baju bajan


bedding and so on...no toys only black, white & sometimes red cloth book


medela harmony and bumble bee bottle [dun asked me which is the best breastpump...i just bought it after consider other users review...plus the great price i get for this bp]
[I decided to buy manual pump as I read it will be useful esp during confinement ~ lgpun slagi belum masuk kerja direct feeding la kan, plus train myself to have some ebm stock
later will buy electric pump and this manual pump will become 2nd pump ~ which later will be use when the electric pump send for service]
bkn kereta je kena servis, bp pun kena servis jugak tau!



matahari 17 jan amatlah membantu sesi2 membasuh

Hospital bag? later I will update...

08 February, 2010

Can baby hiccup in mummy womb? goyang gerudi Inul and 4d scan

Last few days ago I felt like my tummy have a rhythmic movements...seem like someone hiccup but not me....

Then I asked encik suami to hear from my tummy if anything wrong...and guess what encik suami agreed our baby hiccup...

Then I started to flip back my favourite book " Penjagaan Ibu dan Anak"....yes it stated there that baby can hiccup in mummy womb....[you can read it here also for the expert answer...]

Besides, finally after few attempts to video our baby kickin' finally I made it....[before this everytime I tried I cannot get...maybe our baby camera shy??? ihiks]

video
35 weeks
and our baby happily kickin' .....ke goyang gerudi Inul?ihiks

Last but not least, the 4d scan done few weeks ago...Actually around my 7th month pregnancy [early Dec 09], we have done 3d and 4d scan to know exactly our baby gender before start our YES shopping spree....however to our disappointment, our baby covered the face with both hands...

Then I asked encik suami whether he want me to do it again at other place [since I'm doin it at clinic..and thinking to do it 2nd time at Vision College ~ a lot of people said need to book early as a lot of people booking for the scan there since the price is reasonable]. But he said no need, furthermore since the gynea said that baby, amniotic fluid, placenta and so on is ok...

So I though nevermind, and never think to do it again..guess what? when I met the gynea that we have choose for the delivery, she did the 4d and this time at least I can see part of our baby face as below....[jadiklah kan dr x da kan?]



06 February, 2010

Debaran 25 hari...

25 days more

or even earlier......

some of officemate teasing me.."zu, isnin ni u dtg keje x? mana tau kot2 u bersalin? xpun u might be bersalin cny...."

and so on....tu x masuk part officemate nk betting our baby will be boy or girl [since everytime org tnya sy kata secret]

sisa2 terkujat accident (previous entry) ada sikit2 sbnrnya...owh sy takut dgn kereta2 yg esp xsure nk masuk lane kanan ke kiri, dan jugak yg xbg lampu signal....

dan very lately perut rasa menegang2...rasa tidak selesa..setiap malam pasti terjaga 2-3 kali..kepanasan..encik suami awal2 lg mereservekan sy pegang remote air cond (sy cuba untk tidak tdo spjg mlm dgn air cond sbb batuk2 spjg pregnant ni x jugak2 baik...) maka rutin setiap malam...bila terjaga tekan air cond, set for 1 hour dan tdo balik....dan jika terjaga lagi itulah rutin nya..

25 hari lagi...xsama dgn debaran nak kawen....berdebar baca org lain bersalin, berdebar bila fikir2kan jarum, benang, dan ntah hape2 lagi...

tapi yg pasti selera makan saya menjadi2....semalam dan sekejap td sy dan suami share makan 2 bar coklat, muruku sebungkus ...dan sekejap lagi mau makan sedap....

adakah 25 hari tu akan menjd lebih awal? itu urusan Allah....sy tahu encik suami juga berdebar dan susah hati [kereta tersadai di workshop...ntah bila siap]

25 hari lagi.....

03 February, 2010

Accident dan no ekor

Tarikh : 31.01.2010 (petang slps Nona TV3)

Kronologi

Plan ke bandar untk beli tudung dan kain batik. Last2 tambah plan jumpa mak andam sbb utang nk bg bbrapa keping gmbr dan jugak tayang gambar pengantin-basi

Berempat, saya (dikira dua..termasuk dlm perut), encik suami, dan guru muda

Tgh jalan stop kat petronas, encik suami nk minum air...[sy teka vanila coke..sbb dr smlm dia nk air tu tp sy g beli peel fresh oren]

Encik suami beli sarsi [air feveret sy, sungguhpun feveret sy minum boleh bilang ngan jari - bila tahap mengidam air karbonat], gula2 ricola dan nagato asam jawa [encik suami kata air ni tuk sy yg x baik2 sakit tekak]

Saya mengada2 nk mintak seteguk dua sarsi..Uwa x bagi pun...last2 sy belek nagato....eh2 tarikh expired sama ngan bakal anniversary taun 2011 [gulp, anniversary taun ni pun blm smbt lg...]

Perjalanan diteruskan

Memandangkan mak andam dah berpindah kedai, maka selepas melepasi kedai lamanya sy pun call tnya

Almost ke penghujung jalan, encik suami mengambil keputusan untk u turn, dalam tak sedar tiba2 sy mengurut dada, encik suami pula berkata " habis teruk kereta", guru muda pula pun xterkata apa2..

Sebabnya gambar di bawah....


Syukur alhamdulillah tiada kecedaraan fizikal sy, encik suami dan guru muda. Jika ditanya bgaimana berlaku...Ya semua begitu pantas dan sebenarnya tiada bunyi "gedegung" or ape2 side music effect...dan tidak seorg dr kami pun terlambung/ melambung/ terkejut...seolah2 tiada apa...

Ape yg berlaku kepada kereta 1 lagi...

JLG3879


Dan selepas itu sesi2 blur2 [sbb dua2 xpernah eksiden, dan agak blur nk contact siapa]

Yang pasti untk seketika adala bbrapa org berada di situ [kawasan itu agak lengang]. Barangkali yg dtg itu dtg tuk amik no ekor? [no plat encik suami xlengkap sbb no terakhir blm sempat lagi ditampal]

Namun semua akhirnya berakhir di pejabat trafik segamat..tuk sesi2 pe2 yg patut

Kesan dr accident [accident yg xmcm accident kah?]
Guru muda : Kenari dia diterbangkan seketika ke KL - Selangor...[xde dh short distance terbang..sume tahap terbang-jarak-jauh]. Datsun kembali berkhidmat tuk seketika ke sekolah
Encik suami : Tahap risau gaban...sbbnya xtau brapa lama proses claim insurans dsb [semua prosedur sudah setel, tinggal pihak berkenaan sj]. Dalam kepala mcm2 fikir, sabaq ye bang....
Sy : Petang accident tu xterasa lansung baby kicking/ movement. Malam itu pun terasa sikit movement [sdgkan spt biasa baby adalah aktif]. Namun keesokan harinya pulih spt biasa....[ sy kurang pasti side effect.....akan ditanya minggu depan bila check up...mak andam tu kata boleh terbersalin awal sbb baby terkejut]

Kesimpulan : Alhamdulillah, tiada kecederaan fizikal. Allah masih panjangkan usia kami.....dan selebihnya adalah urusanNya dia sebalik kejadian ini.