Big day..all about wedding

*menuju puncak....lala*

*arrival*

mas kahwin, kari daging, dalca, pelamin, bunga manggar, upah jahit lace, jahit chiffon, kasut nikah, kos kahwin, photographer,...bla bla..bla bla....

All this thing will makes the bride to be so scared...even the groom also feel it esp when shaking tok kadi hand...

But it really worth it since two different person *this is not man from mars and women from jupiter...or whatever..haha* will become as husband and wife..two heart, soul become one...two family will become even bigger family...et cetera...

Nowadays wedding events will makes more money and profit to caterer, photographer, wedding planing and all the people involved directly or indirectly in this business...So the most important thing is planning and the rest have to ask from whom have experienced it before...

My big day will be confirmed soon….this will be the most awaiting moment. *aha penat tau asek dating, makan, jalan*...and I really want to write on it *anything I like, I know, my dream wedding...and so on...* It will be few series “persiapan perkahwinan” wedding-preparation..which might help myself as long checklist and maybe help other bride to be...Let start...

The right one
Takde calon pasangan macam mana nak kawen kan? so after find the right one then we will think to end the relationship*not the real end...just end the relationship as lovers but it will start as new world as husband and wife*
K-AH-W-I-N..sape tak suka kawen kan ;p ? penat2 bercinta *esp for those have long years of relationship maybe start from childhood turns into lovers..*

The date
08.08.08, 09.09.09, 10.10.10 wokeh this date seem that so like-able..Ada apa dengan tarikh?
The most important thing to set the date is to gather all the families..atok, sepupu, dua pupu...kupu2...hehehe
Some will have solemnization a day before reception, solemnisation+reception on the same day..or even solemnization followed by reception after some times *a week, a month..3 months or more...*

Try to arrange it accordingly and not to have the same wedding date with other relatives yg nak kawen….

Checklist
I have my own version of checklist, dateline plus budget...This is the most important esp if you become CEO chief-everything-officer for your own wedding..

We can find it thru surfing, magazines...but it is not necessary to follow it 100% as it is only general guide...perasan tak checklist tu selalu tulis what we should do 6 month before until a day before wedding...erm..my list is buat ape yg boleh buat..mana2 yg berkaitan booking hanya dibuat bile dah confirm tarikh...

Budget
Yes this will be the main thing...nothing is free in this world..even toilet already cost 20cents or more...in Islam the main concern is mas kahwin, but it is not necessary in monetary value..It can be any valuable thing even teaching Al-Quran also can become mas kahwin..other that that we are encourage to have small feast to inform family, friends , neighbours...so at least they know that you are married...

Some might be lucky as family will sponsor partially or even all the wedding expenses, some even have to get personal loan, some even working harder and save every single cents...after all we should not expense all the savings for wedding because life after marriage still have a cost, even a lot..house, mesin basuh, tv lcd, katil, babies...the super-duper list

But I believe we should work out from what we have...if we only have little saving then the event should be in accordance to what we have...the wedding event is not to pleased other people because.....its hard to please others! *sob sob sob...hope my blog will generate little income for me...*

Kursus kahwin

*baik ustazah..ekin akan wat....pstt saya pun kursus ngan ustazah ni*

This is very important and most likely passport before you can submit the application...You can choose to attend it earlier *even before you meet the right one*

I have attended it together with enck tunang at Zura's Academy, Bangsar around last June..ustaz2 and ustazah have shared on few topic..procedures, hukum hakam, tanggungjawab, relationship, sex etc...we have very fun session for one and half day *erm..cannot stop laughing all the way..even one ustaz is talking about thundercat..*

Even at the end of 2nd day there is some kind of mock wedding...*naseb baik xkena pilih..kalau tak mauya jadi pelakon-bidan-terjun..*

Note : Make sure that you have booked earlier since the seat is limited for every weekend, have a good sleep esp for ceramah on Sunday, get some sweets since you might be sleepy for long hours stretching ceramah *it depens on penceramah juga..and topics*

Hantaran ...gifts-for-wedding
Malaysia is known for so many sale...will have sale for all the festival..even school holiday also have sale back-to-scholl-sale *not the kids will spend but their mummy will spend ;p* ..whoa!..supermarket anniversary sale and most popular will be year-end-sale *this year will be as super saving sale, jualan jimat malaysia kan?* ..So it should not be a big problem to find the things that you want for hantaran *except you are fussy huh*..most prefer to buy it during sale or towards the wedding...

Hmm...do you believe that for us, everything almost done..with left only few items...although people will say it will become outdated but who cares...as long as both of us like the things and still within our budget it should be ok...*lagipun penat jalan2 asik survey..kan lebih baik beli ajelah kan...lgpun dh berkenan...*

Note: Have proper checklist...5 balas 7, 7 balas 9 or even more *some even do not have hantaran kahwin since they have give it during engagament..* Set a budget for the gift and look for it...jangan rambang mata hingga terbeli apa yg tidak sepatutnya...Then spend some times to look few stores... *bf, tunang be patient k, girls always like that..they never buy it until they look around and satisty*

Decoration for hantaran...so many choices that we have..ask the expert to do it for you *its not free, you have to pay the cost* or for those who like DIY will do themselves...decoration varies from fresh flowers, artificial flowers, bunga dip, bunga stokin, colourful ribbon...*pergi jalan TAR mau rambang...silap2 budget pun boleh larik..*

For us, I will do by myself...huargh...still searching the ideas for both side..since I'm willingly to do it...but of course fresh flowers will not be in the list...*kampungku bandar koboi, susah nk jumpa fresh flower...*

Theme colour..theme wedding
This is the most in trend nowadays...garden wedding, white wedding, beach wedding...with specific theme colour...the theme wedding not necessary for myself, but for the colour I am still thinking on it*for hantaran, reception....and the rest maybe have some tone, colour combination...* Yes people might say it would nice if the bride, groom and families to have the same theme for clothing but sometimes it might lead to happen that pengantin tenggelam and families will shine...owh...maybe some colour coordination need to be done..

I'm not yet decided any specific colour *although I really like purple..warna kegemaran dr zaman kanak2* ...I'm not kind of following kaler yg sdg “in”..* but for akad nikah (solemnisation) , we will wearing white baju nikah...

to be continue...pls be patient *my brain is working...what to write and how to present it in the best sequence and try not to left anything*

N’way pictures from this entry *except gambar Ekin-Mawi* was during Anas wedding..*he is my cousin*… Updated: click here for more pics *pstt Anas dah jadik Zac Efron hmm..or hero citer korea/hindustan..??*

For Anas dan Ayu…Congratulation..Tahniah ;)